Can agree with oneself when us when, we will fear overly to fail no longer, fear overly to err no longer, do not suffer the left and right sides that others evaluates easily; Can adopt a problem to answer way and not be a mood should help oneself solve problem, processing to means human difference; Can dare to assume the responsibility of him duty limits, is not ground of a state of extreme nervousness protects self interest blindly.
Want to accomplish ego self-identity, basically depend on the self-awareness with independent nurturance. We live in the society that makes by network of the person's thinking, affection, want to do the person with an oriented ego, need takes out enough courage, remove the interference of inactive suggestion.
The article publishs Yu Borui | Boraid |
A few kinds of main avenues can help us exalt ego effectively self-identity feeling:
A, problem answers a way, pay close attention to namely can pilot work, do the thing that can change currently, do not do the thing that changes hard currently.
B, reality expects a standard, namely the result of thing of look upon of be practical and realistic, establish the hope with real suit and goal.
C, ego reviews a way, when anything crops up from much angle, turn over directional consideration, jump out inherent thinking means comes judge.
Evaluation technique of D, ego, in order to support the evaluation standard that oneself desire establishs him for main frame of reference, resource of individual of reappraise, activation, increase active inside motivation.
E, fixed comb a law, arrange oneself experience and mood with static heart of half hours of time everyday as far as possible, the rhythm that conscious rein in works, pay attention to the experience in working process to harvest, and the overmuch attention that turns pair of working result success or failure infirmly.
F, part changes a way, in do not need " mask " him instinctive quality is behaved with real look below the circumstance, ferial always good " do others to look " working habit comes off.